writing
Books & Chapters
Taylor, T. & Thawer, R. (2017). Did Toronto Get Queer? In Any Other Way: How Toronto Got Queer (pp. 76-77). Toronto, ON: Coach House Books.🖋️
Thawer, R. (2017). Cardio-Highs: Winning and Running Away All at Once. In Any Other Way: How Toronto Got Queer (pp. 76-77). Toronto, ON: Coach House Books. 🖋️
Thawer, R. & Khan, M. - Co-editors (April 2026). Queer and Muslim: On Faith, Family and Healing. University of Regina Press.
Thawer, R. (November 2025). The Politicized Practitioner. Publisher: Blue Cactus Press.
Thawer, R. (2025). The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys: Skills to Cope and Thrive as Your Authentic Self. New Harbinger Publications.
Chambers, S., Farrow, J., FitzGerald, M., Jackson, E., Lorinc, J., McCaskell, T., Sheffield, R., Taylor, T., & Thawer, R. (Eds.). (2017). Any other way: How Toronto got queer. Coach House Books.
Books in Progress
Thawer, R. (In Progress). Seeking: Stories from a Gay Therapist Making Sense of Connection and Relationships. Publisher: Thornapple Press.
Thawer, R. (In Progress) Sexualized Substance Use and Queer Men: A Guide for Mental Health Practitioners. Taylor & Francis.
ARTICLES & ESSAYS
Thawer, R. (2025, June 27). What Gay Men Must Give Up to Truly Embrace Everyday Bodies. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2025, July 5). “Our therapeutic tools must be queered – not discarded, but reclaimed and repurposed.” The British Psychological Society.
Thawer, R. (2025, June 13). Classroom Storytelling As Anti-Homophobia Education. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2025, May 27). Making Space for Our Bodies and Belonging. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2025, April 5). Bringing Structure to the Therapeutic Unknown: A Clinician’s Toolkit. Medium.
Thawer, R. (with J. Arseneault). (2025, March 16). Working effectively with people living with, and affected by, HIV. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2025, February 15). A Tribute to Muhsin Hendricks: A Life of Courage, Compassion, and Friendship. Medium.
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Thawer, R. (2024, December 24). Should (Gay) Porn Reflect Reality or Remain Fantasy, Aspirational? Medium.
Thawer, R. (2024, December 11). Employees Are Rejecting DEI Theatre and Demanding True Equity. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2024, December 3). What’s your organization’s DEI endgame? Medium.
Thawer, R. (2024, October 4). My partner wants me to bottom, and I’m not sure I can. Let’s talk. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2024, September 27). Applying the four statuses of identity formation theory to queer Muslims. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2024, September 22). Am I an empath? Revisiting boundaries in our personal and professional lives. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2024, August). Grieving non-death losses. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2024, March 4). A Case for Developing Emotional Hygiene Practices with Dating and Hook-up Apps. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2024, March 4). Interview: What is sex therapy? Medium.
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Thawer, R. (2023, December 16). Object Relations Theory and Therapy for the Disillusioned Nationalist. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2023, December 13). The holiday greeting your company won’t ever send. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2023, August 3). I support queer and trans youth, but their parents make me anxious! Closing the gap in our service approach. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2023, August 1). On Being a Politicized Practitioner. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2023, February 6). Cultural Safety & Countertransference: Working in Communities You Belong To. Medium.
Thawer, R. (2023, January 16). Supporting family members when queer & trans Muslims come out. Medium.
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Thawer, R (2022, July 8). Pandemic Bodies Meet Pride Diets. Momotaro Apotheca.
Thawer, R. (2022, June 9). The Matrix of Envy in Our Social and Sexual Lives. Medium.
Thawer, R. ( 2022). Part Three - Processing Shame. Sexuality and the Imprint of Shame: What Queer Guys (and Their Therapists) Need to Know. Medium.
Thawer, R. ( 2022). Part Two - Defenses Against Shame. Sexuality and the Imprint of Shame: What Queer Guys (and Their Therapists) Need to Know. Medium.
Thawer, R. ( 2022). Part One - Understanding Shame. Sexuality and the Imprint of Shame: What Queer Guys (and Their Therapists) Need to Know. Medium.
Thawer, R. & Nelson, K. (2022). How to be culturally competent when supporting LGBTQ Muslims [Edited for length]. Designers Against AIDS.
Thawer, R. ( 2022). How to be culturally competent when supporting LGBTQ Muslims [Original]. Medium.
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Thawer, R. (2020). Fear & Fluid(ity), Part III - Confronting Our Fears: How a Fear of Bodily Fluids Affects Interpersonal Fluidity & our Communities. Spectrum Journal.
Thawer, R. (2020). Fear & Fluid(ity), Part II - Gender Fluidity: How a Fear of Bodily Fluids Spills Over Into Fear of Gender Fluidity. Spectrum Journal.
Thawer, R. (2020). Fear & Fluid(ity), Part I - Bodily Fluids: How Social Discourse Causes us to Fear and Contain Bodily Fluid. Spectrum Journal.
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Thawer, R. (2017). Defending Uncritical Art Has Consequences. Marvellous Grounds: Bodies as Archives: QTBIPOC Art and Performance in Toronto, (Issue 2).
Thawer, R. (2016). Phobias, Mental Health and Pride: a QPOC Perspective. Rabble.ca.
Thawer, R. (2013). Self-Reflection Workout: Stress and Ab-spectations. OurAgenda.ca Blog: GMSH.
Thawer, R. (2012). Contents Under Pressure: A Queer Muslim Unsilenced. The Ethnic Aisle.
Proposed Projects
2026-2028
Du’a for Self-Love: A Therapeutic Guide For LGBTQ+ Muslims. Publisher: [TBD].
Unconditional Love: A Guide for Muslim Families with LGBTQ+ Loved Ones. Publisher: [TBD].
How Personality Shapes Pain, Connection, and Growth. Publisher: [TBD].
Care and Complacency: Ethical Questions for Social Workers & Counselling Psychologists. Co-writing with Dr. Jose Aviles-Acosta. Publisher: [TBD].
Cartography of Relationships: A Psychoanalytic Map For Working With Non-Monogamy, Polyamory, And Blended Families In Contemporary Clinical Practice. Co-Writing with Dr. Marco Posadas. Publisher: [TBD].
Contours of the Clinician: Essays on Queer Identity and Cultural Confrontation. Publisher: [TBD].